Too Much Information
January 3rd, 2010
Hell, I have a blog about hooking up and dating, it puts my business out there, but I gotta be honest some of my most privates stuff doesn’t make it in an entry. So, tell me this why do some people love to tell every detail? Sometimes it is just too much information for me. I can get embarrassed pretty easy as it is, but when my friend is telling me his dirty thoughts about her body over a cocktail, I just want to run away. Some things should be kept to yourself. You can tell me about your connection with your guy, without telling me about you most intimate moments. I don’t need to know how it feels when he is inside you. PLEASE, Please Keep It To Yourself!
We’ve all seen Sex In The City, ladies talk. Sure we do, we always talk, but some people talk too much. It’s okay (sorry boys) to talk about your man’s package, maybe reveal their size and how they use it, but get into how much they came or what their face looked like when they came, Too Much! It’s okay to talk about his kissing style, but then to talk about how he kissed when he went down low, ugh Too Much! Do you enjoy yourself in these moments or are you too busy thinking about how you are going to describe this to your cringing friends the next day? When I’m in the hookup…ohhh I’m in it! It is hard to remember every moment and especially not the smallest details. My advice, enjoy yourself. If you find yourself thinking of a friend during a hookup, you’re not in it. And I guarantee that friend will get grossed out to find out she was part of these most intimate moments with your man. Forget about what your friends are going to think, what she might say about this move or that, because if that is your reason for hooking up you are missing out. So ladies, your friends don’t really want all the juicy details, keep some to yourself. And I’m talking to some of the other Miss’ on this blog, too (you know who you are) TMI…TMI…TMI!
August 3rd, 2009 at 5:00 pm
Great topic and observations (especially the element of being in the midst of doing something intimate and simultaneously anticipating telling someone about it later). You gotta wonder why some people don’t want to keep anything private, not simply to avoid too much exposure, but because having some intimate secrets can give you a wonderful feeling or energy which you lose if you tell about the experience.
However, the anonymity of blogging makes a difference. And for the reader, it can be priceless (okay, maybe not priceless, but at least “rich”) to learn about other peoples’ experience – not just what was done, but the feelings & thoughts about it.
One difference (reading a blog) is that you can react without being observed by the one telling you the details, so you are not revealing too much (uncomfortably) about yourself to the one telling the story. That’s one factor in varying how much detail is uncomfortable.
And let me tell you, as a man telling a woman, some of us men are very interested in the stuff (experiences, conversations, true feelings/thoughts) which women rarely share with men (but often share with other women). Women always say ‘Women talk to each other with way more dirty detail then men do. Men would be shocked.’ So some of us remain curious (and perhaps a bit frustrated) about what is being kept unknown to us.